If you are on the site to begin with then that raises a question. Do not assume, as you said(MOST GUYS) are here to meet you in a hotel, unless that is what your sub conscience is telling you. Not all guys are whores. How about you?
I’ve been a member of AFF twice in the last 5 years, both times for about a year. My initial reaction was similar to the reaction of the person who filed this report. It seemed like all the women were fake, even the real people www.besthookupwebsites.org/local-hookup/leeds/ were un-communicative, and the free membership was way too restrictive and unexplained (I never did figure out how the “profile views per day” were calculated. sometimes I could view them, other times I couldn’t with no rhyme or reason). That all changed when I learned what you need to do to succeed on AFF.
This all changed when I did two things. The most important thing about AFF is that you need to understand that you need to give as much as you expect in return. If your profile is a cock shot with a paragraph of text without punctuation or misspellings you will *never* get laid, period. I posted a full body nude shot, with my face clearly visible, as well as several other black and white, arty nudes I took myself and had developed at the local Target (I was still pre-digital). If you don’t show your face on your profile or in emails that you send your chances of getting lucky are very low. You don’t need to reveal too much about yourself, discretion is advised and expected, but realize that everyone on there has the same goal. (Also, put face pics after your primary picture, this limits the people who can view them to paying members since free members can’t see anything but a thumbnail of your first picture)
I started a blog on the site (the second time. blogs weren’t around when I joined the first time) and posted regularly either about my experiences or various funny or interesting swinger/sexuality type stories. I also made it a point to send my face picture along with emails and limit the number of cock shots I sent out (remember, free members can’t see your profile so you better include lots of info in your emails to make them interested. Emails without pics are almost always deleted. Cock shots are widely reviled, but some women do enjoy them. Their profile will tell you if they might want to see your tool in a first email or not). Also, I took the time to send emails to people I was interested in that were a couple paragraphs long, clearly showed I had read their entire profile, and explained why I was interested in them beyond simply horny-ness.
I also joined as a Gold member. I’m not saying you have to join to get lucky but for a guy it would be nearly impossible to have any luck without being a member. Most women I know on the site get between 50 and 1000 emails a week depending on their looks and their activity level on the site (Blog owners get tons of email). If you can’t send emails most women will never find you. I’m currently a silver member and have had plenty of luck, so going Gold isn’t necessary.